Veterans Day, 2009

Today is a day set aside for honoring war veterans.  Every war veteran has already received the biggest honor he or she could ever get: surviving the war. Every war veteran has also received the biggest curse he or she could ever get: surviving the war.

I was never one to organize kids into groups that sent toothbrushes and greeting cards to soldiers fighting overseas. I’m glad other mothers did, and do. My focus with my child was always on the casualties of war. I discussed, and still discuss, these kinds of things:

  • War is hell.
  • Innocent people die in wars.
  • Soldiers suffer physical, psychological, and emotional damage as a result of wars.
  • War devastate countries where people live.
  • Real soldiers are very much like toy soldiers, being manipulated by others.

The best thing we can do for veterans, in my opinion, is to end wars. I dislike the fact that so many historical periods are defined by wars. When my daughter was enamored of the American Girl historical fiction series, we would refer to Felicity as the “Revolutionary War girl” and Molly as the “World War II” girl.

I do not think of my daughter as the “War on Terror” girl, and neither does she.  I do not think of myself as the “Vietnam War girl.”

I hope all the veterans can be proud of their service today, and then go on to think of themselves as something other than a war-related person. I thank them for doing a job I never want to do, but I see them as more than soldiers. I see them as fathers and mothers and sons and daughters and cousins and house painters and truck drivers and singers and business owners and cat lovers and baseball players.

And peacemakers.

Crowds including children dancing and carrying flags of Allied nations during a spontaneous celebration of Armistice Day & the end of World War I. Location: Paris, France. Date taken: November 11, 1918.

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Eating Life

As the unschooling spirit wafts around your household like the smoke from a blown-out candle (the candle of traditional expectations), it becomes easier and easier to understand that you really can do anything you want to do.

Now, don’t get me wrong here. I’m not talking like a life coach on the Oprah show, saying you can embrace wealth or power or your inner goddess simply by deciding to do so.

I’m talking about  what I call eating life. Just taking a bite out of the thing that’s always been in your mind, and, symbolically, on your plate, but that you haven’t tasted yet, either because it looked too unusual or because you thought it would add too much to the bill.

Just do it. Take a bite. Around here, that’s been happening a lot. My husband just directed his first play in ten years. Why? Because he finally decided that directing a play again was too delicious an experience to let sit on his plate any longer. He took the bite, it tasted very good, and he’s a much better person for having made that decision.

My daughter is busy nibbling on things, too. And I’m at a life buffet, starting a new blog (My Political Side) and looking through ther Writer’s Market with more seriousness than ever before. (The Writer’s Market has been on my symbolic plate for a long, long time.)

So, learn to crochet. Take a yoga class. If you’ve read a book you liked, go to the author’s web site and tell her so. She’ll probably write back. Run for office. Take a walk. Bake bread. Write a novel. Call your long-lost friend. Paint. Sing. Learn to tango. Read Wuthering Heights, for goodness sake!

Whatever it is, just engage your palate and do it. It feels brave. It feels good, and it’s good for you, too.

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Carnival of Unschooled Life — November 2009 Edition

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Go to life, not school.

I think the carnival is picking up steam. You’ll notice more entries than in the previous carnivals, and you’ll also notice many bloggers who are new to the carnival, which is wonderful. Welcome!

I’d like to take this opportunity to wish everyone a Happy Thanksgiving. It’s my favorite holiday–no consumerism; lots of gratitude (and food); home, hearth, and coziness; and the Macy’s Thanksgiving Day Parade. My mother raised me to adore the Rockettes, and I’ve tried my best to carry on the tradition.

And now, without further ado, the November 2009 edition.

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Life at Home

Rainbow Rivers Journey presents her first carnival post, Life at Home, which contains this delightful and intriguing sentence: “We have wiped out our belongings to pretty much a shell, a blank canvas we can dance through and weave a new cloth of interests and new possibilities with.”

Rana presents Dad’s doing his part at  Free to learn an loving it. Hooray for Dad!

Heather Newman presents Working at Play at Daily Cuppa Joy. Lucky Heather says, “My boys spend their days playing, lost in their imaginary worlds, exploring ideas for hours at a time.”

Kate, a carnival newcomer, presents How We Do It at Simply Mother. She explains, “I just did a series introducing the whys and hows of our homeschool, which, as far as I can tell, is pretty much unschooling. (I heart John Holt.) This last post gives the run down on what our days are like, and encouragement for how simple and lovely it is.”

Raechelle,  another newcomer, presents Favorite time of day at Adventures in Homeschooling. She reports that “After a year of more traditional homeschooling, we decided to take a month of experimenting with unschooling. It is going so well that Unschool October will be lasting a few more months.” We’re glad to hear that, Raechelle!

At The Stone Age Techie, Karen presents Sewing Up Some Fun, in which she perceptively realizes that her son likes to sew because “there is a  small element of danger in using a sewing machine.”

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Out in the World

Idzie presents NBTSC 2009, about Grace Llewellyn’s legendary Not Back to School Camp, at I’m Unschooled. Yes, I Can Write.

Lisa presents her first carnival post, Pumpkins, peppers and patience at Mrs. Hannigan’s Home for Girls. You absolutely must see the frog on the baby’s nose!

Jessalynn presents Living on Maui: Waimoku Falls at Meadow Musings. Thanks for joining us, Jessalynn.

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Inspirations

John Anyasor presents Should I or Should I Not? The Curse of Indecision,  in which he asks “Who said I had to pick one thing?”at HiLife2B.  Welcome to the carnival, John.

Laura Grace Weldon, another carnival first-timer, presents Calling Out the Buccaneer-Scholars.

Samantha, yet another newcomer, presents Mario World, about bringing “current passions into all facets of life,” at ninth street east.

The Whole Mama presents her first post here,  What? You Have No Rules?, which discusses the all-important “rules vs. principles”  idea.

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Dark Nights of the Soul

Barbara Cameron presents The writer at work, in her own time at Three Girl Pile-Up. In this post, Barbara admits that sometimes it’s hard “to trust that [her daughter] will learn what she needs when she needs it.” But there’s a happy ending. Welcome, Barbara.

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Encounters of the School-y Kind

Pamela Jorrick presents Not Back to School at Blah, Blah, Blog (What a great name!). Welcome to the carnival, Pamela.

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Beginnings

Sara McGrath presents Radical unschooling and homeschooling from “Mother Anarchy” at Unschooling Examiner. Sara says, “This post . . . leads the reader through my early days of unschooling and otherwise unconventional parenting.” We’re glad you joined the carnival, Sara.

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Passages

We’re in a time of passage here at our house, since our daughter has turned sixteen and is studying for the written test she needs to pass to get a driver’s permit. So, while she learns about “no passing” lanes and blood alcohol levels, we think back to the days of strapping her into her car seat and tucking a blanket around her legs for those long drives home from relatives’  houses on cold winter nights.

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Miscellaneous

YES! Magazine recently published an article by John Taylor Gatto called Take Back Your Education. It’s a worthwhile read, of course, and you can find it here.

***Heartfelt thanks to all who submitted posts, especially all of the newbies. We look forward to discovering your blogs. This is a good thing we’re all doing here, so please keep submitting.

To contribute a post to the next edition of The Carnival of Unschooled Life — which will be here at The Expanding Life on December 1, 2009 — use the carnival submission form. December’s carnival will not have a theme, just the usual categories, which are described here. Holiday-related entries are acceptable. Past posts can be found on the blog carnival index page.

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Calling All Unschooling Bloggers

If you are:

  • an unschooler
  • who has a blog
  • and blogs about unschooling

you can send a post to the Carnival of Unschooled Life!

Please do. The carnival is a place where unschoolers can read about the lives of others who:

  • live without school
  • learn from life
  • trust that their children will learn (because learning is what human beings do)
  • and enjoy doing all of the above!

The deadline for posts is October 31, 2009. The carnival will apear here on November 1, 2009. Submit your post and I will send you a joyful thank-you email.

"Oh, what a delightful post for the carnival!"

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Happy Birthday, Hillary Clinton

Class leader Hillary Rodham of Wellesley College talking about student protests which she supported in her commencement speech.

Class leader Hillary Rodham of Wellesley College talking about student protests which she supported in her commencement speech.

Today is Hillary Clinton’s birthday. Say what you will, I’ve always liked her. Her intelligence inspires me to do more with my mind, and her courage in the face of, well, everything a country can throw at a smart, powerful woman, simply astounds me. Happy birthday, Hillary, and, may I say, I think you’ve never looked happier than you do since you became Secretary of State.

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I Feel Famous

Debbie interviewed me for her wonderful blog project, in which she collects interviews from homeschoolers.

Here is our interview.

Thank you, Debbie!

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Let’s Play a Game

Your first pet

Your childhood street name

Your childhood street name

Does anybody remember the name game in which you take the name of your first pet and the name of your childhood street and combine them to create a new silly or risque name for yourself?

Let’s play that!

My first pet was a goldfish I named Sally. My childhood street was Bunns Lane. Yes, you may pity me. So, my new name would be Sally Bunns.

My husband’s name would be Jake Wheeler. I like that; it sounds like a cool private detective name.

My daughter’s name would be Daisy Joyner.

How about you? Come on . . . I wanna play!

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I Convert People

Well, at least I make the effort. Harper Perennial Modern Classics, through the efforts of Jennifer Hart, is re-releasing the Betsy-Tacy high-school-and-beyond books by Maud Hart Lovelace:

As part of the push to keep these wonderful books in print, Jennifer came up with a “convert” plan. I immediately took the bait. Here’s how it worked:

  • Jennifer sent me a copy of Heaven to Betsy/Betsy in Spite of Herself.
  • I selected a poor soul who knows not the wonders of Betsy’s world and asked her if she would read the book.
  • Many, many other B-T lovers did the same, and if the plan works, Betsy-Tacy fever will sweep the nation!

I gave the book to my best friend, who loves classic “girl” books as much as I do, but somehow missed these. I’m waiting to hear what she thinks, but I already know she’ll love it.

If you would like to convert to the cult of B-T, now is the time. You’ll be glad you did!

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Happy Birthday, Sweet Sixteen

Tonight’s the night I’ve waited for
Because you’re not a baby anymore
You’ve turned into the prettiest girl I’ve ever seen
Happy birthday sweet sixteen

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If I should smile with sweet surprise
It’s just that you’ve grown up before my very eyes
You’ve turned into the prettiest girl I’ve ever seen
Happy birthday sweet sixteen

(Lyric by Howard Greenfield, 1961)

With all our love,

Mother and Dad

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Take the Stone Age Techie’s Survey!

The Stone Age Techie is putting together a paper about why we homeschool (or unschool, or whatever you call it at your house).

The deadline to take her simple survey is the end of October. I hope you’ll participate by emailing her at whywehsatyahoodotcom.

I can’t wait to read her results!

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